Forget The Past

You've been clinging to the past, haven't you?

Here's how you can stop:

• Forget a Little: Begin by releasing some of those past details. They're not serving you anymore. Instead, fill your mind with positive, forward-looking thoughts. Start a new routine after dinner, go for a walk with your spouse, friend, neighbor, or by yourself. Not just any walk, but one where you explore the present and dream about your future.

• Action: Plan your walk for tonight. Make it a daily ritual. Use this time to discuss what's happening now, what's coming up, and what you're excited about.

• Talk It Out: Find someone you trust deeply—a friend, a family member, or your partner. Share your thoughts not to relive the past, but to resolve it. Talk about your aspirations, your next steps, and how you're growing.

• Action: Decide who you'll confide in, someone constant. Make it a point to discuss something new each walk, something that excites you about the future.

• Forgive: As you walk and talk, forgiveness will come naturally. First, forgive yourself. Understand that some mistakes were lessons. Then, if there's someone else involved, forgive them too. Remember, some journeys of forgiveness are solitary, and that's perfectly okay.

• Action: Reflect on what you've learned from your past. Write down one thing you've forgiven yourself for or one lesson you've learned. Keep this list as a reminder of your growth.

Why This Works:

• Daily Walks: They're not just about exercise. They're about shifting your focus. When you're walking, you're moving forward, and that physical act can help your mind do the same.

• Communication: Talking about your dreams and plans with someone who cares about your future, not just your past, helps you visualize and believe in that future.

• Forgiveness: It's a process, not an event. By forgetting a little each day, you're making room for forgiveness. It's like cleaning out a closet; you can't fill it with new things until you've cleared out the old.

Today's Challenge:

• Set Your Walk: Make it a daily appointment with yourself or your chosen companion.

• Choose Your Talk Partner: Decide who you'll share your journey with. It's about finding someone who will help you look forward, not back.

• Start Your Forgiveness List: Begin with one item. Every day, add to it. This list will become your roadmap to a future unburdened by the past.

This is something I struggled with a lot and I know you have also. We all have situations arise in our life that can be traumatizing. And it can be hard to let go of those situations. I mean at times we get hurt and we don't want to let it go because that fuels our ego, it fuels our drive also sometimes. But as I got older I realized I didn't want to be motivated by my past, I didn't want to make decisions based on my past feelings. I wanted to make better decisions right in the moment with the information that I have at the time. Also the past is something we can never get back. We learn from it and move on.

For me the best thing that worked was going on daily walks and sure my wife and I did discuss the past, who doesn't right. But we would shift it more to present and future. And we realized that if we talked more about the present and future we focused more on it. We moved towards our goals easier. And we forgot a lot of the past and now when we talk about it, we have a hard time remembering some of it.

We don't remember the past how it was anyways. We start to add and subtract details, at times forming a story that may have not even happened. Because you will never remember everything down to the detail.

The above tactics I listed is things I've done and tried. It worked for me and I hope it helps you also.

Remember, the past is just a story we keep telling ourselves. Start rewriting your story today by focusing on the steps ahead. You've got this!

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